Category: Writing life

  • Writing in Old Age: A Journey of Reflection and Expression

    Writing in Old Age: A Journey of Reflection and Expression

    As a writer ages time becomes more malleable, seeming to have changed shape while we are distracted. The hours may feel longer in some cases while for others, me included, the hours fly by. The years pile up behind us like heavily edited manuscripts, full of red, and sometimes regret at missed opportunities. Writing stops feeling like a ladder we climb towards some lofty goal, and more like a comfortable chair we sink into with an honest familiarity.  

    When I started in 1991 I belonged to a small group of writers who met monthly via snail-mail. We called ourselves the Night Writers and worked to hone our craft while encouraging and celebrating the achievements of the other members. I recall one discussion in which we talked about aging, and the strong possibility of not hitting the goals we sought until we were well into our sixties.

    This past December I celebrated 67 trips around the sun, and I’m still plugging away, searching for that one elusive story that will put me over the top. The one I’ve been chasing since the day I started pouring out my soul on the typewriter.

    When we’re young, we write to prove we’re here. Later, we may write to understand what being here means. Age doesn’t only bring loss. It brings angles. The same childhood kitchen, the same first job, the same arguments you swore you’d never repeat. Looking back, they reveal the patterns you couldn’t see while you were living them. Mostly because you were too busy being dramatic.

    That widened perspective is not nostalgia, but material.

    Memory frays. Names go missing. Dates slide by the wayside. You can walk into a room with purpose then stand there like an actor who’s forgotten their line. Writing in old age doesn’t have to pretend to be a ledger. In fact, the gaps can become part of the form. You can write around what you can’t recall, noting the blank spaces the way you’d notice a torn page, with curiosity rather than shame. Sometimes the truth lives in the feeling you can still summon, or in the questions that remain after the facts have softened.

    The work may need to adapt. A daily ritual can be smaller now, two pages instead of ten, fifteen minutes instead of an afternoon. Of course, afternoons may now include an appointment for your knees. You discover large-print settings, a better lamp, a softer chair, or dictation when fingers ache. These aren’t compromises so much as craft decisions that keep the door open. The goal is continuity, not heroics. Keep a notebook within reach. Draft letters you may never send. Start with a single sensory detail. The sound of a screen door. The smell of rubbing alcohol. The color of late winter light, or the mysterious creak you swear the house is making just to get your attention.

    Old age also changes the question of audience. You may still publish, still chase polish and acclaim, still argue with a paragraph the way you once argued with a teenager (and yes, the paragraph is winning). But you might also write for a grandchild who hasn’t been born yet, or for the friend you miss, or for yourself on a day when the world feels narrow. Writing becomes a way to keep company. An intimate conversation with your own mind, conducted in sentences that can be revisited when words are hard to find out loud.

    In the end, writing and old age share a quiet discipline. Paying attention. To what endures, to what changes, to what you can still choose. A paragraph is small, but it is a decision, an act of shaping experience rather than letting it simply pass. If the body insists on limits, the page can offer range. And if you keep writing, even in brief bursts, you’re not only recording a life; you’re continuing it. One sentence at a time. Preferably before you put down your pen and wonder where it disappeared to.

  • Establishing Daily Routines for Effective Writing

    Establishing Daily Routines for Effective Writing

    My wife is always teasing me about how structured my days are. “It’s 8:30, time for Rick to grab breakfast, then go to his office and work.”

    “It’s eleven o’clock, time to work out.”

    “We don’t always have to eat dinner at five.”

    But for me these routines are important in helping me manage my day. It’s critical that we establish routines in our daily lives so as not to become overwhelmed with all of the mundane tasks that occupy our days. I know a few people who are so disorganized that they act surprised when it’s time to go to work, as if that moment were a wild beast quietly sneaking up on them.

    You probably know a few in your own life. Those people who are never on time and can’t really be relied upon to be where they promise they will be.

    “I’m sorry, was that today?” They’ll tell you even though they had known about the appointment for than a month and had been reminded periodically. There is a certain subset of society who likes to blame this on a new phenomenon called Time Blindless. Of course, I’m old school and willing to call it what it is. Laziness. But that’s a subject for another time and place.

    Today I want to talk about writing and routine, and why a routine is important in not only writing, but in every aspect of a person’s life. Routine provides a structure to your day, a roadmap if you will that guides you through the myriad events of your day, ensuring you meet your own expectations and arrive on time at any appointments you may have scheduled.

    When I served in the military punctuality was drilled into us relentlessly. “If you’re ten minutes early you’re on time. If you’re on time you’re late.” Unfortunately, command had a totally different idea as to what was considered on time.

    We had another saying in the military that tied neatly into the first. “Hurry up and wait.” It was not unusual to get the order to move out at 0600, 6am for those not familiar with military time, yet we’d all be sitting around in the staging area come 9am waiting for someone to pull their foot out of their ass so we could get going.

    It’s a good thing this was in training and there was not a friendly force out there somewhere desperately holding on waiting for us to show up with a promise to roll at dawn. Of course, most would not have expected the unit to move when promised anyway. Yet, somehow, we have managed to maintain our place as a reigning superpower.  

    And here I’m going off on another tangent. The real reason behind all this is that I should have had this finished and uploaded to my blog yesterday. But here I am at 8:53 am ET, writing this post. Sorry.

    As for writing, creating, or learning a new process it’s important to structure your day around your goals. When you establish a time and place, and stick to it, you’re telling yourself that this is the time and place where I will write. At first it might seem counterproductive to restrict your writing to a certain time and place, but it’s important to do so as you will train your body, and your mind to be ready to create at that time. At first you may end up browsing the web, or writing a late blog post, but you’re forcing yourself to concentrate on writing at this time.

    That doesn’t mean you can’t brainstorm the rest of the day. Most of us gather material for our work from our daily interaction. Writing down ideas, and thoughts throughout your day will help you store them for when you cam sit down to write.

    How many have heard the excuse. “I can’t write unless my muse is speaking to me, or they’re inspired to create.”   

    When you train yourself to write at a certain time and place you’ll be amazed to learn how easily it comes to you with a little practice. So be patient. Even if you only have an hour a day or can only manage a hundred words. That’s a hundred words that weren’t there before. A hundred words a day can add up, that’s 3000 words a month, which is the length of a typical short story. In one hundred days a hundred words a day will net you 10,000 words. Are they perfect words? Likely not, but everyone starts somewhere.

    What you’ll find when you start focusing your efforts is your word count for that hour can climb. Right now, as I’m writing this post it has been twenty-five minutes since I started and I’ve managed to put down 778 words to this point. They’re not completely clean by any stretch of the imagination, but within the next half an hour I’ll have a finished post that hopefully you’re reading right now.

    Tell me about your process. Do you have a set time and place to write, or create? Or do you take the scattered approach and grab what time you can spare throughout the day?  

  • Why Sharing Your Writing Dream Matters

    Why Sharing Your Writing Dream Matters

    Do you share your writing with those close to you?

    Every writer begins with a dream—whether it’s finishing a novel, publishing a memoir, or simply expressing creativity through words. Yet, sharing this dream with friends and family can feel daunting. The act of revealing your writing ambitions is often the first step toward claiming your identity as a writer, but it’s also a leap into vulnerability.

    My wife supports my dream, but she does not read in the genre I work and flatly refuses to read anything I’ve written. I do have several friends who have read my work and are always asking what’s coming next.

    Why Share Your Dream?

    Sharing your writing dream is transformative. It turns a private aspiration into a public commitment, helping you grow both as a writer and as a person. When you allow others to read your work, you move beyond imposter syndrome and embrace your creative potential. Supportive feedback can boost your confidence, while constructive criticism sharpens your skills. Kerstin at Write You Journey

    Navigating Support and Skepticism

    Not everyone will understand your passion. Some friends or family may be unsupportive, dismissive, or simply indifferent. Remember, their reactions often reflect their own insecurities, not your worth as a writer. Setting boundaries and communicating your feelings can help manage expectations. If support is lacking, seek encouragement from writing groups or online communities, where fellow writers understand your journey. Lisa Fellinger at Live Write Thrive

    Building Accountability

    Announcing your goals to loved ones creates accountability. Whether you share updates on social media, join a writing group, or simply tell a trusted friend, publicizing your intentions makes you more likely to follow through. Allowing you to celebrate your milestones together, such as finishing a chapter, submitting a story, or receiving feedback. These moments reinforce your commitment and remind you that progress is worth celebrating.

    Embracing the Journey

    Sharing your writing dream is not just about seeking validation, it’s about inviting others into your creative world. Be open to feedback but protect your vision. Surround yourself with those who encourage you, and don’t be discouraged by those who don’t. Ultimately, your writing journey is yours to shape but sharing it can make the path brighter and more rewarding.

    Listed below are several writing communities, stop by and check them out.

    • Reedsy Discord: A supportive, free community for writers of all genres, offering writing prompts, flash fiction contests, and peer feedback.
      Absolute Write Water Cooler: One of the largest and most active forums, covering every genre, freelance writing, publishing, and critique.
      Critique Circle: Focused on in-depth feedback and critiques, with free and paid options.
      Writers.com: Offers regular prompts, Zoom sessions, workshops, and an online space for sharing work.
      Scribophile: A large, award-winning group for manuscript feedback, beta readers, and writing forums.
      WritersCafe.org: Post your work, get reviews, join contests, and connect with other writers.
      Shut Up & Write!: Global, free community focused on accountability and writing sessions—both online and in-person.
      She Writes: A large community for women writers, offering articles, tips, and forums.
      The Next Big Writer: For writers seeking critiques and advice from published authors.

    This is far from an exhaustive list of the groups out there. If you’d like to share those I’ve missed leave a comment below.

  • Plotting vs Pantsing: Which Writing Style Suits You?

    Plotting vs Pantsing: Which Writing Style Suits You?

    When embarking on a writing project, authors often find themselves choosing between two distinct approaches. Plotting and pantsing. Each method offers unique advantages and challenges, and understanding their differences can help writers select the path that best suits their creative style.

    Plotting: Structure and Strategy

    Plotting, sometimes called outlining, is a methodical approach where writers plan their story in advance. This can involve creating detailed outlines, mapping out character arcs, and organizing scenes before writing the first draft. Plotters benefit from having a clear roadmap, which helps maintain narrative coherence and logical progression. This structure is especially useful for complex stories with multiple subplots or intricate character relationships. Plotting can also minimize writer’s block, as the author always knows what comes next, and it often leads to more efficient revisions since potential plot holes are addressed early on. However, plotting can sometimes stifle spontaneity, making stories feel predictable or causing writers to get stuck in the planning phase without moving forward.

    Pantsing: Creativity and Discovery

    Pantsing, derived from “flying by the seat of your pants,” is a more spontaneous approach. Pantsers dive into writing with minimal planning, allowing the story and characters to evolve organically. This method fosters creativity and can lead to unexpected twists, making the writing process exciting and dynamic. Pantsers discover their plot as they write, which can result in fresh, authentic narratives. However, this freedom comes with risks: stories may lack structure, leading to plot holes or pacing issues, and writers may experience burnout if inspiration wanes.

    Choosing Your Path

    Ultimately, neither method is universally superior. Some writers blend both approaches, outlining key points but leaving room for discovery. The choice depends on your personality, project needs, and what inspires you most. Whether you thrive on structure or embrace creative chaos, understanding plotting and pantsing empowers you to craft stories in a way that feels authentic and productive.

    Plotting, or outlining, is favored by writers who prefer structure and advance planning. Notable authors who are known for their plotting methods include:

    • J.K. Rowling: Famously plotted the entire Harry Potter series before writing, using detailed outlines and spreadsheets to track characters and plot points.
    • Brandon Sanderson: Known for his intricate world-building and complex plots, Sanderson meticulously outlines his novels before drafting.
    • James Patterson: Outlines every chapter before writing, ensuring a tight, fast-paced narrative.
    • John Grisham: Plans his legal thrillers in detail, mapping out the story before beginning the first draft.
    • Dan Brown: Uses extensive outlines and research to structure his bestselling thrillers.

    These authors demonstrate that plotting can help manage complex stories and maintain consistency throughout a series or standalone novel.

    Authors Who Use Pantsing

    Pantsing, or “writing by the seat of your pants,” is embraced by writers who prefer spontaneity and organic story development. Well-known pantsers include:

    • Stephen King: Often writes without a clear outline, letting the story and characters guide the narrative. King discusses this approach in his memoir, On Writing.
    • George R.R. Martin: Describes himself as a “gardener” rather than an “architect,” preferring to discover the story as he writes.
    • Margaret Atwood: Known for allowing her stories to evolve naturally, without rigid outlines.
    • Neil Gaiman: Embraces discovery writing, letting ideas and characters develop as he goes.
    • Ernest Hemingway: Wrote with minimal planning, focusing on the flow of the narrative.

    Other notable pantsers include Diana Gabaldon (Outlander), Mark Twain, Isaac Asimov, Dean Koontz, and Hilary Mantel. These authors value the creative freedom and unexpected twists that pantsing can bring to their work.

    If you’re a writer what method works best for you? I’m more of a pantser until the work starts becoming unwieldy at which point I’ll start plotting the rest of the novel to fill in any holes.

  • How Everyday Life Sparks Great Writing Ideas

    How Everyday Life Sparks Great Writing Ideas

    One of the most common questions a writer hears is, “Where do you get your ideas?”

    Being the typical smartass that I am, I sometimes reply they come from the idea tree.

    But the real answer, when authors are willing to admit it, is simple, yet elusive. Ideas emerge from some of the most unexpected places. Maybe a fleeting moment, a snippet of conversation, or even a dream. For some, inspiration is rooted in personal experience or observation. Mark Twain famously based Huckleberry Finn on a childhood friend, proving that real life often provides the richest material for fiction.

    Other writers find their muse in the world around them. News stories, historical events, or even graffiti can spark that “what if?” moment that leads to a compelling narrative. Many authors, like Stephen King and Neil Gaiman, describe their ideas as arriving unbidden. Sometimes half-remembered, sometimes fully formed, yet always demanding attention.

    In his book On Writing, Stephen King spoke of ideas using the cup and the handle metaphor. How some ideas do not arrive fully formed and ready to go. But they get catalogued anyway until the idea that represents the handle or the cup arrives to complete the set.  

    But the secret isn’t just in having ideas. It’s in recognizing their potential. Writers train themselves to notice the unusual, the poignant, or the extraordinary in everyday life. They jot down stray thoughts, nurture them, and let them grow into stories. Sometimes, inspiration comes from other art forms, travel, or even the simple act of people-watching.

    For me personally I watch strangers. I work part time at Wally World, and I’ve wasted a few moments building narratives in my mind for the lives of the shoppers around me. Simple little tales that at times uncover a deeper narrative that refuses to be set aside. Like a hidden treasure trove of ideas that emerge from a simple act.

     Every writer’s process is unique. The magic comes with being open to inspiration while being brave enough to follow these ideas to where they ultimately lead. Turning ordinary moments into extraordinary tales.

    Where do your ideas come from?